Stop Searching for the Cause of Homosexuality

In today’s Knoxville News Sentinel there is a story about two local men who were married in Iowa back in 2010, who now want to seek a divorce. Because same-gender marriage is not legal here in the state of Tennessee, these men have no clear way to dissolve their marriage.

As you can imagine, in the comments section of this story, someone made the observation that homosexuality is a choice–that there is no “gay gene”. The implication is that gay people should be cured so that society doesn’t have to deal with marriage issues and other LGBT equality issues.

When I think of all of the time, money, and manpower that has been wasted trying to discover what causes people to be gay, I become frustrated and angry. WHY are we still looking for a cause?

Medical and psychiatric scientists around the world have determined that homosexual people are as functional as heterosexual people. We can hold jobs, recreate, worship, raise families, have relationships, contribute to society, etc., just as heterosexuals. We are no different than heterosexuals in these regards.

It’s time to stop looking for a “cause” and move on to “acceptance” that we exist, we have always existed, and we will continue to exist long into the future.

I like to respond to those people who insist that homosexuality is a “choice” by challenging them to make the “choice” to change their own orientation. “Show us that it can be done”, I say to them. If you are a heterosexual man who believes that orientation can be changed, then become gay. Force yourself to be attracted to other men. Date men. Develop a relationship with a man. Maybe even marry a man for a few years. Really throw yourself into it.

It’s as preposterous for me to ask them to change their orientation as it is for them to ask me to change mine.

The bottom line is that there are so many other issues that need to be addressed. For one more scientist to spend another second trying to figure out why people are gay is a colossal waste of resources.


Letter to the Knoxville News Sentinel re: LGBTQ&A Alumni of Carson-Newman

On Saturday evening, still filled with joy and satisfaction from our participation in this year’s PrideFest celebration, I wrote a letter to the editor of the Knoxville News Sentinel.  I’m happy that they decided to print my letter.
Hopefully, alumni and other folks connected to Carson-Newman will read about us and join us in being a voice of change.  I’m also hopeful that readers will come to understand the issues and pitfalls that young LGBT individuals face.
If you are not a subscriber to the Knoxville News Sentinel, then you are not able to read the letter, so I will post it here:


This was our first year participating in the 2014 Knoxville PrideFest Celebration. Our group, the LGBTQ&A Alumni of Carson-Newman consists of more than 140 LGBTQ&A (“A” stands for heterosexual allies) alumni, students and professors of Carson-Newman University who are dedicated to making higher education at a conservative, Baptist university easier and more affirming for LGBT students.

We recognize that LGBT youths are at great risk for isolation, depression, anxiety, self-harm, bullying, substance abuse, poor school performance, family alienation, etc. Our goal is to help them avoid these pitfalls.

We also believe that Christianity and homosexuality are not mutually exclusive notions. We are comfortable in our belief that God created us all, including LGBT individuals, and that he has great love and purpose for us.

We would like to thank the many people who visited our booth during the festival at World’s Fair Park. It gave us the opportunity to let them know that over the past five years we have given out two scholarships (we’re building funds for a third), provided emotional support for current LGBT students and are making plans this fall to offer an off-campus social-support group to Carson-Newman’s LGBT students.

We would also like to give a huge thanks to the board and organizers of this year’s PrideFest. Their tremendous work made our participation seamless and enjoyable.

Those who are interested in knowing more about our group can find us on Facebook at LGBT Alumni of Carson-Newman or on twitter @lgbtalumniofcn.

(The LGBTQ&A Alumni of Carson-Newman is not officially associated with or recognized by Carson-Newman University.)

Tom Cogburn, Chair and Founder
LGBTQ&A Alumni of Carson-Newman


Welcome To Our Blog

Carson-Newman University (formerly Carson-Newman College) is a small, Tennessee Baptist affiliated University in Jefferson City; a rural town in Upper East Tennessee.

It is known for adhering to strict, moral codes of conduct that mirror the Tennessee Baptist Convention. In the mid-1980s when I was a student there, students weren’t even allowed to dance on campus. And it was rumored that if two people could smell alcohol on your breath, you were subject to suspension or expulsion.

The LGBT Alumni of Carson-Newman got its start about 5 years ago when I began to wonder how many other gay and lesbian people had attended CN. So, I started a facebook group.

During the first year about 6 alumni stumbled across the facebook group. The second year I believe we had about a dozen more alumni who found us.

Then through word of mouth our group began to really take off. We now have over 140 members made up of LGBTQ&A alumni, students, professors and staff.

Although our group started out as a place for people to reconnect with one another, it became clear that we had a higher calling. Specifically, we wanted to help current LGBT students at Carson-Newman.

Each one of us knew what it was like being gay or lesbian at CN. We knew well the fear and isolation. We knew about the schools views on homosexuality. Sexuality of any sort was frowned upon and forbidden.

To that end the LGBT Alumni of Carson-Newman decided to establish a mission to help LGBT students through support, affirmation, and any other way we believed that we could be of assistance.

I believe it was near the end of our second year that we were approached by a young gay student at CNU. He needed help purchasing his textbooks. His story saddened and frustrated us. Apparently he decided to declare “Theater Arts” as his major. His parents were not happy with his decision. They told him, “We’ll pay your tuition, but we’re not going to buy those ‘faggy’ books.”

He had been saving his money to purchase his first car. Being forced to buy his own textbooks would mean that he could not buy a car.

Our group sprung into action and began raising money. We took money from our own pockets. We solicited money from friends and family. And in a very short period of time we had raised the $850 needed to purchase his books.

I remember driving to Jefferson City to give him the check from the LGBT Alumni of Carson-Newman. He was overcome with joy and appreciation. He took me on a tour of the Theater department and showed me a set that he and his classmates were working on for an upcoming production.

A few months later several of our members received a letter from Carson-Newman asking for a donation to the new Alumni House that the university was constructing. After talking amongst ourselves we decided to raise money to support their efforts.

When we sent our check to CN we weren’t sure that they would accept it. Even though it was a sizable donation, there was a chance that the recipient would take one look at the check, see who had sent it, and return it to us.

We were overjoyed when the check cleared. We even received a letter of thanks from the project team.

We gave another scholarship during our third year. This time a young bisexual woman was tired of the judgmental comments and proselytizing she experienced from her peers. She wanted to move off campus, but needed funds to help with a security deposit and first month’s rent.

During our fourth and current year we turned our attentions to making Carson-Newman University a more inviting school for LGBT students. We were aware that LGBT youth were coming out at earlier ages. We also knew that most students don’t always have a great deal of input when it comes to where they will go to college.

As I mentioned earlier, Carson-Newman has a strict moral code that students must follow. Kids who tend to underperform or have behavior problems are sent to conservative institutions by parents in an effort to turn them around. LGBT kids are also sent to such schools in hopes that they might “straighten out”.

Don’t get me wrong. Carson-Newman is an excellent school. And administrators want high achieving students at the university. But parents can also have their own agendas.

In addition to parents sending their students to CN in hopes of getting them to buckle down and get a good education, many LGBT kids choose CNU because it is very easy to be closeted on the campus. Due the religious atmosphere, “hooking up” and “sexual exploration” isn’t as pervasive at CNU as one might expect on a college campus. Students, both male and female, aren’t afraid to admit that they are “saving themselves for marriage”. There isn’t a great deal of peer pressure to date.

This atmosphere provides the perfect cover for young and closeted LGBT individuals.

Nevertheless, our Alumni Group recognizes that LGBT youth are at high risk for several pitfalls; including: isolation, depression, self-harm, anxiety, poor school performance, substance abuse, family abandonment, spiritual crises, etc.

We made the decision to actively change the atmosphere at CNU to better address the needs of LGBT students.

Earlier this year we met at the Highlander Center (a bastion of liberalism and advocacy), which is located in New Market, TN. LGBT Alumni, professors, and other interested individuals discussed the issues that we believed needed to be addressed at CNU to aid LGBT students.

The result of that meeting led to LGBT sensitivity training for several key (volunteer) CNU professors and staff. We have also made plans for an off-campus LGBT Social-Support Group that will begin in the fall of 2014. I have met with some of CNU’s administrators to inform them of our group’s achievements and have been pleasantly surprised by their understanding and support.

One final goal that we are working on as a group is to establish an ongoing scholarship for LGBT students at CNU. We have set a goal of raising $2,000 so that we may give one $1,000 scholarship to a student per year and have a remaining $1,000 in reserve for future scholarships. Our plan is to continuously solicit donations to keep our scholarship fund flush. It is much more efficient this way instead of receiving a request from a student and then dealing with the pressure of raising the money all at once.

If you would like to donate to the LGBT Alumni of Carson-Newman Scholarship Fund, you may do so by going to PayPal and donating to our account: You may also send a check ( made payable to LGBT Alumni of Carson-Newman) to my address: 525 Renford Road, Apt. A114, Knoxville, TN 37919.

I will be adding future blogs to update you on our group. In addition I will discuss articles from various media sources that are of interest to the LGBTQ&A community, and will occasionally provide personal commentary on similar issues.

Thank you for visiting our blog and feel free to follow us on facebook and twitter @lgbtalumniofcn

Tom Cogburn, Founder and Chair
LGBT Alumni of Carson-Newman
Class of 1988