In today’s Knoxville News Sentinel there is a story about two local men who were married in Iowa back in 2010, who now want to seek a divorce. Because same-gender marriage is not legal here in the state of Tennessee, these men have no clear way to dissolve their marriage.
As you can imagine, in the comments section of this story, someone made the observation that homosexuality is a choice–that there is no “gay gene”. The implication is that gay people should be cured so that society doesn’t have to deal with marriage issues and other LGBT equality issues.
When I think of all of the time, money, and manpower that has been wasted trying to discover what causes people to be gay, I become frustrated and angry. WHY are we still looking for a cause?
Medical and psychiatric scientists around the world have determined that homosexual people are as functional as heterosexual people. We can hold jobs, recreate, worship, raise families, have relationships, contribute to society, etc., just as heterosexuals. We are no different than heterosexuals in these regards.
It’s time to stop looking for a “cause” and move on to “acceptance” that we exist, we have always existed, and we will continue to exist long into the future.
I like to respond to those people who insist that homosexuality is a “choice” by challenging them to make the “choice” to change their own orientation. “Show us that it can be done”, I say to them. If you are a heterosexual man who believes that orientation can be changed, then become gay. Force yourself to be attracted to other men. Date men. Develop a relationship with a man. Maybe even marry a man for a few years. Really throw yourself into it.
It’s as preposterous for me to ask them to change their orientation as it is for them to ask me to change mine.
The bottom line is that there are so many other issues that need to be addressed. For one more scientist to spend another second trying to figure out why people are gay is a colossal waste of resources.